{at this moment: old friends}


It started with an email. I'm sure I was writing, working on some blog post, when I heard my email ping. The note was from a really great friend that I had lost touch with since kids happened. We were inseparable in high school, stayed close through our college years, and even managed to keep in touch post-college as I became a gypsy. She stood beside me in my wedding, along with my sister, childhood friend, and two college friends. Then, for no other reason than living life, we lost touch. 

The email she sent me one month ago included a request: "Let's get the gang back together." And so we did last Sunday at Lorimar Vineyards in Temecula, California. We participated in a wine tasting and picked up right where we left off. One of my girlfriends is very good about staying in touch with old friends via Facebook, so she was able to tell us how people were doing. It was always good to hear when someone was doing well; Not so great when she would report that so-and-so was having a difficult time. I'm old enough now that my high school years seem like a life time ago ... Like an out-of-body experience. I don't even recognize myself from high school, or rather I identify with very small parts. The all-consuming angst and rage is gone. (Yea, don't miss that.) I would like to think I've carried forward the good parts - left behind the bad parts - and the joy I get from hanging with the girls is still very much prevalent. I know we all have families and lives to live, but Sunday reminded me that nurturing old friendships is important. They are a wonderful reminder of our journey - where we've been, where we are today. Plus, no one knows you like an old friend. Sunday was a great day.

How about you, are you the same person or a very different person than the one from high school? How have you changed?

Just like that we made it through another week. As always, thanks for hanging with me. Have a wonderful weekend, everyone!
 

PS~If you're reading, a big thank you to J. for suggesting we get together. Let's do it again soon!

21 Send Me Your Thoughts:

  1. it's so nice that you could all get together considering how hard it is to gather friends with all the conflicting schedules. 
    I try to keep in touch with my friends from HS as best I can, but months pass in between phone calls, etc. It's so great to reconnect isn't it?   Have a fab weekend.  xo Teri

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  2. That's lovely that you got together and picked up right where you left off.  You tell the story so well.  Have a great weekend T x

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  3. That sounds like such a wonderful day! I love that you were able to reconnect with a friend as if no time had passed. That's the mark of a true friend.

    Considering I am only (ahem) 8 years out of high school, I still identify myself as being 16 in my head. Whenever I pay bills or do something "adult" like buy wine at the liquor store, a very large and loud part of me yells, "WHAT ARE YOU DOING? YOU ARE 16!" So, yeah. I still feel mostly the same. I've gained some much-needed weight, lost friends, gained friends, lost all touch with high school boyfriends (thankfully, haha) but I still think of myself as the same girl. I like the same things, I want the same things (to be a writer and also to make out all. the. time.) and I still live in the same place. I think that has a lot to do with why I feel so stunted. My middle/high school was really small (100 kids) and we were together from 5th-12th grade, so it was a family. We had the same teachers for 8 years, we all knew each other's families, we knew all the gossip, etc etc. A huge problem the majority of us had after graduating is that, while we made college friendships, the strength of our friendships from Masterman was just on another level. It was incomparable. So I have a few college friends, but my best friends are the same ones I've had since 6th and 8th grade. Those are the ones who know me the best. And whenever you get more than two Masterman people in the same room together, the conversation reverts back to high school. Always. Without fail. It was the best (and worst, at times. It was high school, after all) 8 years of my life. 
    Whoa, sorry about that! I went on a tangent there. :) To answer your question, I think I'm the same person from high school. Ask me again in another 8 years. xoxo

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  4. Glad you had a lovely time T!  True friends are hard to come by so it was good that you guys could pick up where you left off.  I think I'm pretty much the same person except wiser, more sure of myself, and more understanding of the the world.  But me at my core has always stayed the same.  

    You have a wonderful weekend as well : )

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  5. Oh lovely Theresa. Facebook was wonderful for reconnecting me with old friends from high school (and not so wonderful in that regard too....). This will give you a giggle. As I was driving Callum and our neighbor boys (all teens) into school one morning last week, I was making small talk with the eldest, who was sitting up front with me. Much like my son, this particular young man is quite charming and very easy to talk to, and still, I struggled. I worried that I wasn't interesting enough. So. I'm clearly not capable of talking to teenaged boys. ;) I *do* think I've left some of that angst behind, but sometimes (when I'm feeling angst-ridden), I wonder if I've just left the appearance of it behind. As always, in life, some days are better than others. Have a lovely weekend, dear. xo

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  6. this is lovely. i am lucky to have several friends that knew from way back when. i don't miss my "high school" days at all but i totally feel like the same person - just grown from that person. 

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  7. How nice for you... glad you carried on where you left off!
    Bet there was lots of laughter and going down memory lane...

    You a gypsy??? Priceless! I sometimes catch myself thinking of you pre-marriage and pre-kids and wondering what you got up to??

    Have a great weekend!



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  8. t, it sounds like a wonderful reunion.  i have lifelong friends from college, but we don't get together much - too busy.  fb is really nice for keeping up with folks you don't have time to see face to face.  yes, just like that, it's the weekend.  enjoy your family, and i'll see you next week.  peace, n

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  9. Awww, how lovely! Friendships that survive high school, marriage AND kids are the very best of all. It was never hard for my friends and I to keep in touch and have the usual grown-up play dates until our kids came along but I'm sure you know how that goes! :)

    I, too, feel very fortunate that despite the challenges of working/motherhood we've all stuck together through thick and thin and still find time to spend hours on the phone and hang out whenever we can - despite living in various parts of the country or world. Where would we be without Facebook/Skype, I ask you?

    Am I still the same person I was in high school? Essentially, yes. I'm still geeky and shy deep down but I've always had a good head on my shoulders and I care a lot less now about what people think of me. I never had a rebellious phase but who knows? Perhaps when I hit forty? ;)

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  10. I like to think and I hope I am a different person from the high school days. My husband often says he would gladly go back to those days. But I have to say, I don't miss those days at all. 

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  11. I'm glad you had such a great time! It's so true.... "no-one knows you like an old friend".
    I think i am similar in nature to how i was in high school. I'd like to think i'm more confident and self assured (but maybe only a tad). Happy weekend xx

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  12. Thanks, Teri. It is nice to reconnect. It always leaves me asking myself: Why didn't we do this sooner?

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  13. When I was writing this post, I kept thinking about you and all your lifelong friendships. You've certainly done a great job at staying in touch with your girlfriends. It's really special.

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  14. Oh, I loved reading about your high school - the friendships and the experience. That's pretty amazing, Erin!  Isn't it strange that high school can be both the best AND worst of times? So many peaks and valleys. I suppose those tend to level out a bit as you grow older, or they have for me.

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  15. " I think I'm pretty much the same person except wiser, more sure of myself, and more understanding of the the world." - Oh, I like the sound of that very much. Also known as aging gracefully. ;)

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  16. I don't miss my high school days either. I've often given those people who do high school over again a side look. Ha!

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  17. Thank you, Noreen. Hope you're enjoying the last bit of your weekend.

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  18. Yes, we definitely share the geeky factor. Geeky is the new cool, right? :) I can definitely relate to the shy part, as well. And, yet, you've managed to start your own business and design your own line. That must be where the "good head on my shoulders and I care a lot less now about what people think of me" part comes into play. Very inspiring, Chi! :)

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  19. Oh, I'm like you Santa, I wouldn't go back to my high school days. Well, maybe, maybe I would go back if I was able to carry with me the knowledge I have today. The knowledge that nothing is ever as bad as it seems and that life does (and will) get better. Otherwise, forget it. ;)

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  20. I have zero desire to go back to my high school days. I would say at the core I am the same person. However I am older, wiser and I also moved from where I was from (the suburbs of NY) to the opposite coast (Seattle) and I think any time you make a big move like this you can not help but grow as a person.

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  21. I tend to think that I'm pretty much the same person from high school but know that I'm not.  There's a lot more confidence and assertiveness, which isn't necessarily always a good thing.  The high school friends that I keep in touch with are far too few these days but you're right - whenever I think of that time, it's like an out of body experience or like remembering a dream.  Hopefully I learn, improve and move on

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